Hi everyone!!

There has been a lot of talk about a subject that I will never truly understand and I’m guessing I’m just trying to fathom it out.

There are a few toxic people out there who will say and do whatever to be pure nasty. You can call them narcissistic, a troll or just plain deplorable.

It actually saddens and hurts my heart that some people can be so full of hatred towards another person. Even worse when their chosen target is innocent and hasn’t done anything to deserve such treatment.

Their words are full of venom and hatred. Words that could destroy someone especially someone who suffers with low self-esteem or mental health issues. Their lies could destroy someone’s livelihood, their relationships with their loved ones/colleagues, even get them in trouble with the law depending on what the lies are.

I feel like a lot of it is self reflection of their own inner demons, projecting their wrong doings and twisting everything to make their target look like someone that they’re not. This is also signs of someone that knows that they’re the wrongdoers and that they enjoy this projection to make themselves feel big and mighty.

A narcissistic person will spend their lives blaming everyone else for their misfortunes, they have excuses for everything especially if they’re caught out making mistakes and will not once put themselves in their targets’ shoes because it is all about them, and how it affects them. They will detract whatever they say and do if they don’t hear or see something that they expect and will kick up a storm (so to speak). To bully and demean another person is unacceptable. I have nothing but pity for these type of people. I find that those who do shout out and try to publicly put someone down, are the ones who have something to hide or are full of guilt especially if they did something wrong.

I have always gone by the rule of if you dislike someone then you don’t have to engage with them in any way or you remain to be civil depending on the circumstances. This doesn’t make you two faced but it does makes you more mature. Then you move on with your life. The best advice I have is to try and ignore anything that a perpetrator may be saying and doing, they are wanting a reaction but the majority of them will continue to keep biting especially if you react. It’s not easy. Please report anything and everything if you are being targeted whether it’s on social media, the police or just someone you know and trust. There’s nothing worse than being the target of someone who is full of hatred. Remember that more than likely, you have done nothing wrong to deserve such treatment. You will get through it. I suggest you watch The Odd One Out which is a documentary that Jesy Nelson (from Little Mix) helped make for BBC ONE about the effects of trolling, and feeling like you’re not worth it etc. It’s a brilliant watch although sad because of what Jesy went through and how it affected her.

We are all stronger than we think we are, and we should be always be kind to one another!! Don’t ever let someone get you down and don’t believe a word that they say about you because they are wrong, they’re looking for attention and they are the ones who are not worth it... or your tears. Hold your head up high!!